There is great power in being refined. We’re going to really break down what that means, and take an in-depth look at the process and the...

March 28 of 2026 marked six years to the day since I was fired, and I spent that whole week feeling nothing but gratitude for it. At the time, of course, it didn’t feel like anything close to a gift. It felt like the end of a long climb, the kind of failure that destroys everything you thought you understood about yourself. I was convinced that moment would define me for the rest of my life, and if you’d told me then that in six years I’d be writing a blog about resilience, w

I was sitting with a group of friends recently, talking about Stephen Covey’s framework of urgent and important, when the conversation turned toward aspiration. We started asking ourselves how much of our lives we spent chasing the things we aspired to, and how often those aspirations actually delivered the peace we thought they would. That conversation stuck with me, because the honest answer is that a lot of our time gets poured into aspiration, and not nearly enough of it

The cost of becoming who you actually are includes the grief of who couldn't come with you. I wrote last week about the two kinds of unfiltered, the kind that’s forced on you by hard circumstance and the kind you choose because purpose has taken hold of you. What I didn’t get to in that piece, and what I keep wanting to come back to, is the question of where the unfiltered life is hardest to live. Most people would guess work, or maybe public life, somewhere with stakes and a